The Blog Entry: Dec 4, 2013 – Trash talking important work
A snap shot of the article: The self-induced anxiety formula often goes like this: What I’m about to do is important. You get nervous when you feel like you are having the once a life time opportunity which you would never get again. A common approach to decreasing the unhappy cycle is self talk to minimize how important the upcoming event is. The problem with that approach is that you spend your day trash talking your leverage and impact. In fact, it does matter, it is nerve racking, but it is OK to be nervous. We shall learn to embrace it and dance with your fear. It’s a sign you’re on to something. “Oh good, here comes that itch!” When we welcome a feeling like this, when we embrace it and actually look forward to it, the feeling doesn’t get louder and more debilitating. It softens, softens to the point where we can work with it.
The very thing I learn from it: It’s ok to have fear, learn to embrace it and dance with it, and know that once you go through it, you would resolve a problem.
Challenge: Overcome the fear from the past, change the perception towards myself not being able to build good relationship with colleagues/people at work. Overcome the fear of being open, start trusting and believing in yourself. When you know that itch is coming, recognise it, when you want to run away, do the opposite.
Actual task: Start talking to your boss again, proactively. Stay back to do drinks at QT, and proactively talk to your colleagues, do not leave earlier unless you have to.
How did I go and what have I learned? – To be continued…