Place yourself in extreme situations – if you hate dinner functions, go to dinner functions; if you are not comfortable, be comfortable; if you don’t want to be engaged in a conversation, be engaged in a conversation; if you don’t want to be seen, be seen; if you get nervous around someone, be around someone, as often as possible; if you hate presentations, do more presentations, but practise first – so one day, you will be different, not in a sense that you won’t be nervous any more, but rather you have gotten used to dancing with your fear, so you have thrill instead of fear when you are in the situations again.
The Blog Entry: Dec 4, 2013 – Trash talking important work
A snap shot of the article: The self-induced anxiety formula often goes like this: What I’m about to do is important. You get nervous when you feel like you are having the once a life time opportunity which you would never get again. A common approach to decreasing the unhappy cycle is self talk to minimize how important the upcoming event is. The problem with that approach is that you spend your day trash talking your leverage and impact. In fact, it does matter, it is nerve racking, but it is OK to be nervous. We shall learn to embrace it and dance with your fear. It’s a sign you’re on to something. “Oh good, here comes that itch!” When we welcome a feeling like this, when we embrace it and actually look forward to it, the feeling doesn’t get louder and more debilitating. It softens, softens to the point where we can work with it.
The very thing I learn from it: It’s ok to have fear, learn to embrace it and dance with it, and know that once you go through it, you would resolve a problem.
Challenge: Overcome the fear from the past, change the perception towards myself not being able to build good relationship with colleagues/people at work. Overcome the fear of being open, start trusting and believing in yourself. When you know that itch is coming, recognise it, when you want to run away, do the opposite.
Actual task: Start talking to your boss again, proactively. Stay back to do drinks at QT, and proactively talk to your colleagues, do not leave earlier unless you have to.
How did I go and what have I learned? – To be continued…
Being caught up by so much operational work recently at work stopped me from pursuing inspirations. It is so easy to become stagnant. When life is without motion and passion, it becomes boring. So I want to do something about it.
Just got to know that Seth Godin is coming down under September 2014 (yup it’s next year, but tickets are already available for sale!!!).God knows how much respect I have for SETH, would love a once a life time opportunity to sit in a full day Q&A session listening to his words of wisdom and letting him ignite all the fire inside me towards marketing, towards brilliant ideas. But I thought to myself, how much would I gain from that one day session? A lot more than what he would normally share? More than the aggregation of all his learnings accumulated day by day? How much information I can take away? If I were lucky, I might merely get to ask 2 questions or 3, and I would be really busy taking notes at the same time, so I can imagine it is going to be a full on and overwhelming learning experience shared with 180 ‘Seth believers’. But is there any other way I can make the learning experience more personal, more impactful to myself and also Seth Godin could gain value from it?
I have an idea. An idea that could help discipline myself and also strengthen my ability to execute and implement ideas – it is to put Seth Godin’s daily mantra into practise and write down the learning experience that belongs uniquely to me, i.e. for every idea Seth writes in his blog, I’ll set a challenge for myself to find a situation or opportunity to just execute it. Then I’ll come back and write about my learning at the end of every day.
This is going to be such an exciting learning experience for me. In terms of how to get in touch with Seth, that’s another story. I’ll think about that if I could sustain this activity for 2 months.
It really is going to take persistence and discipline to do this, and I am going to do it.